New York’s Sex Diaries series asks anonymous city dwellers to record a week in their sex lives — with comic, tragic, often sexy, and always revealing results.
Photo-Illustration: James Gallagher
This week, a woman who goes on a new date almost every night while applying for a big new job in finance: 35, single, Brooklyn.
9 a.m. Wake up, masturbate. I was a late bloomer when it comes to sex in the sense that I feel like I’ve only just started discovering my sexuality. I had never really masturbated until five years ago when I started a very stressful job in finance; it became one of my biggest sources of stress relief since it’s fast, deeply satisfying, and portable. My horniness has been out of control recently, so I’ve been masturbating a lot more as I’ve simultaneously dipped my toe back into the dating pool.
10:30 a.m. Go to the gym. My relationship with my body is a huge part of this recent progression in my sensuality. I’ve been feeling better about my body than ever; much of that is from going to the gym and feeling powerful and accomplished.
12 p.m. It’s been a rough few years as many, many friends have gotten married and started having kids. Finding a partner and starting a family is something I really want, and it’s been frustrating to watch everyone else move forward while I’m stuck in place. In the last two weeks, both of my closest friends and my brother told me they were pregnant. I’m happy for them but definitely caught off guard. I told myself I would take this weekend to let myself cry, grieve, feel sorry for myself, and journal, so I spend a couple hours doing it today.
4 p.m. Bumble strategy? Swipe yes on every guy, send them all the same message, and then filter whoever replies. High volume, baby!
8 p.m. A texts about coming over. We went on a first date about a week ago, and it ended with some very hot making out. He’s into smoking weed, which I can get behind. I can’t hang out tonight, as I have a job interview in the morning and want to be really fresh for …….